Your Self Worth

I saw a great reminder today when I was looking at motivational signs and one in particular caught my attention.  It read, "Your value doesn't decrease based upon someone's inability to see your worth".  I absolutely loved this, because it prompted me to think about the times through out my life where someone underestimated me about one thing or another and I was able to rise to the occasion of not only exceeding my expectations but theirs too.  There are many times when we are faced with these challenges and it is not always the case that one gets the opportunity to redeem themselves.  Therefore, when their is an instance when one can achieve this, it makes the climb up a tough mountain that much more sweeter.  More importantly in the message, was to also take note that just because somebody does not see what you believe your talents and strengths are, to not take it personally.  Our personal self worth, is such a valuable commodity that we cannot afford to lose any ounce of it, as we have to wade through the seas of instances when we are challenged by the non-believers in us.  There are detractors and others who may feel superior to you, just because of a personality clash that you will never be able to fix.  This is were we get caught up sometimes, in trying to figure things out, so that someone will like you, despite what it can take to arrive at that desired outcome.  We must be mindful that we are not always going to be somebody else's cup of tea and when that occurs, do not waste a lot of your time in figuring out the right solution to a problem that may not have any remedy.  It is in our nature to want to be liked by others, however, as I have grown older, my focus has shifted towards being respected versus liked.  You see, like can be very subjective based upon the person making the assessment and there are any number of things that can change a person's viewpoint to be able to agree or disagree with you, just on the basis of their biases.  Rather than spending time on changing that circumstance, focus on what it is that you bring to this world, by your measures of talents, gifts and abilities which you could share.  Think about the amount of time that we all have on this earth and how quickly it goes by.  For some who do not get to live a long life, we have them as vivid examples of why the need to focus on the things that truly matter.  Therefore, do not worry about those that want to detract you when they focus on something negative about you, instead turn your head and face towards those that do want to be part of your existence as you add value to them, just as much as they do to you.