In the book "The Essential Wooden, A lifetime of lessons on Leaders and Leadership", by John Wooden and Steve Jamison, there is a to-do list for leaders.  One of the items that Coach Wooden itemizes is, "When disagreeing, do not become disagreeable".  The list has four items on it, however, this item really spoke to me.  Aside that Coach Wooden was so successful and admired by so many, this one item on his leadership list could very well define who he was.  We all know that anyone who enjoys sports has somewhat of a competitive nature in them.  Everyone wants to win and in team sports, everyone does their best for the good of the team.   When you think about a sporting match of any kind, whether it is soccer, football, tennis, baseball or basketball, there are umpires or referees that aide in keeping score and enforce the defined rules of the game.  I can think of many instances on the nightly news when the camera highlights an argument between a player, coach or referee.  The reason they are highlights, is because they normally do not portray the individuals involved in a gentleman or gentlewoman like manner.  Usually, the highlight is someone going off on someone else and the conversation is usually heated and somewhat emotional.  When I think about Coach Wooden and his advice to not be disagreeable, it is the antithesis of what the sports highlight reel would show.  Just because you disagree with someone, does not mean that you have to be disrespectful.  To disagree is everyone's right, however, your demeanor and how you handle the disagreement is part of your character.  The next time you feel that you disagree with someone, think about the words that you use and the context in which you utilize them.  Strive to be the good sport in your situation and convey your disagreement with grace and dignity.  We have had too many sport highlight reels that showcase how we can communicate poorly, let's do our best to show the world that we can be better.