Robin Roberts who is the host of "Good Morning America", has been on medical leave to recover from a bone marrow transplant and residual medical issues that she has been dealing with.  Prior to this issue, she went public when she battled cancer and brought a lot of attention to disease and what people undergo as a result.   She is among my favorite people on television news as I remember her from the years when she used to cover sports.  One of her sayings that was taught to her by her mother, who passed away within the last year, was to "make your mess your message".  When I watch the newscast these days without Robin, I often think about her mother's message to her and how she has handled all of this so gracefully in the public eye.  I am also a true believer in that what ever your mess was, if you got through it, then you have the responsibility to help someone else through theirs.  It is also very interesting that people who keep their mess a secret live with condemnation, fear or embarrassment that suppresses who they really are.  When the opportunity arises to release such a mess from your life, clarity usually follows, as one is no longer blurred by the impaired myopic view in which they saw the world previously.  The world usually is much more forgiving than we are, when it comes to things that may have been a mess.  I think about the many scandals that people in power or the public eye have faced and as much as there was rhetoric about their particular situation during a particular time, things usually subside.  People remember individuals who show the rest of the world that their imperfections are in actuality character elements that made them who they are.  It does not matter that one is not part of the world of media or public scrutiny as the feelings of being in a mess are the same to all.  I hope that if you find yourself in such a place, that you can take heed in releasing your apprehension about your situation and be prepared to help someone else get through their tough spot, as soon as you get through yours.  When you think back two years from now, my bet is that you will have a hard time remembering why you caused yourself so much consternation over a little mess that has long ago been cleaned up.